How do men cope after a breakup?
I want guys to answer this?
What do you do after a break up to feel better?
I really do empathise with a break-up situation, as I have been through three break-ups in my lifetime, and that includes one really major break-up with someone whom I was going with for at least three years. I guess I can share my thoughts from a point of view of someone whose tried various things.
The first thing to acknowledge is, there really isn’t going to be a perfect plan. The harder I tried to forget or even forgive, the harder it got. So I decided that I won’t try too hard. First things first, don’t try too hard, and don’t beat yourself up for nothing. What’s past should remain in the past, so just stay Cool! (capital "C").
Cruise Along: I say cruise along because there are two images that come to mind. One is Tom Cruise: hey, the guy is cool and if anyone were to break up with him, he’ll just remain cool. The next thing is, don’t you get this serene feeling when you imagine a yacht sailing through the wind in a strong evening breeze, crusing towards the sunset! That’s right, just cruise along in life and enjoy it. Just Cruise along!
Do what you love to do: I guess it varies from guy to guy; but, we’re talking about really fun things that we can enjoy; chilling out at the beach; dining out with friends; snorkling; diving; take short vacations (if you don’t want a long holiday); play tennis; soccer? well, these are things I did to keep me focussed on who’s important to me and folks who were just willing to be there without asking me too many questions!
There are going to be down and lonely days, when you may be tempted to feel sorry for yourself! Well, my take on this is, don’t be too quick to shrug it off; just use it as a trigger to jumpstart your memory of good and happy stuff that happened, and which we should always remember and feel good about.
Then, get back in the game, a better person! as I am sure you will.
Go to parties drink, and pick up new girls.
Hang out with the boys, go snowbaording (fav)
Golf, and barbeques and beer.
Do stuff until you get a new girl or you don’t think about the old gf so much.
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keep yourself busy…. it doesnt matter what… i personally end up drawing or writing alot, then going out with my friends later…
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you can’t notice a man that he is hurt on a break up, i guess you can only know their sentiments when they are drunk…
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Slash her tires, throw rocks through her windows, send literature about STDs to her work in care of her boss, etc.
You know, all of the stuff women will do to men if the shoe was on the other foot.
= )
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yea i broke up a few weeks ago- i felt terrable for a while- but i found if i kept myself busy and surrounded myself with my friends it is easer to get over it all. they say time heals all wounds.
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I really do empathise with a break-up situation, as I have been through three break-ups in my lifetime, and that includes one really major break-up with someone whom I was going with for at least three years. I guess I can share my thoughts from a point of view of someone whose tried various things.
The first thing to acknowledge is, there really isn’t going to be a perfect plan. The harder I tried to forget or even forgive, the harder it got. So I decided that I won’t try too hard. First things first, don’t try too hard, and don’t beat yourself up for nothing. What’s past should remain in the past, so just stay Cool! (capital "C").
Cruise Along: I say cruise along because there are two images that come to mind. One is Tom Cruise: hey, the guy is cool and if anyone were to break up with him, he’ll just remain cool. The next thing is, don’t you get this serene feeling when you imagine a yacht sailing through the wind in a strong evening breeze, crusing towards the sunset! That’s right, just cruise along in life and enjoy it. Just Cruise along!
Do what you love to do: I guess it varies from guy to guy; but, we’re talking about really fun things that we can enjoy; chilling out at the beach; dining out with friends; snorkling; diving; take short vacations (if you don’t want a long holiday); play tennis; soccer? well, these are things I did to keep me focussed on who’s important to me and folks who were just willing to be there without asking me too many questions!
There are going to be down and lonely days, when you may be tempted to feel sorry for yourself! Well, my take on this is, don’t be too quick to shrug it off; just use it as a trigger to jumpstart your memory of good and happy stuff that happened, and which we should always remember and feel good about.
Then, get back in the game, a better person! as I am sure you will.
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