Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

I am a very physically and mentally abusive relationship and i need some help asap. I was hoping for something online, maybe a forum or chat room? does anyone know? i just need support and opinions before I can get to a therapist because im scared and uncertain right now.
**I am recovering from

The link below is just one of many I found just typing in groups for abusive relationships.

If you truly want to get out of this relationship, there is plenty of help out there especially in the large metropolitan areas. There are also safe houses where abused persons can go to get away from their abusive situation. You can also call your local crisis hot line.

The point is that you should have help in your own community. Take advantage of it. Good luck.

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I am working in a Women’s Shelter and this keeps coming up. What was your mind-set when in it? What made you realize this was wrong?

even though i knew it was wrong all along.. i couldn’t get out when i wanted to.

i stuck around for about 8 months after the first time he did it. i was brainwashed into thinking that i’d find nobody better – it was like i became 2 different people.

one who believed his every word out of love (infatuation or just plain..deceit)
and the other who knew better than that.

but i managed to get out…. don’t exactly remember how i did it. but i did and i am glad.

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My ex seems to have no problem moving on with his life…I am stuck at home raising our kids without any help from him at all. I try to do things with my kids because they are my primary focus but I feel as if my life is just passing me by. My self esteem and self confidence seems to have drifted away, if it wasn’t for my beautiful kids showering me with their love I would be a total wreck.

Trust me, you w/get over it & get back to a better than before kind of life. Of course your ex has no problem moving on, because he was the problem to you, but of course not to himself. So he’s going to remain the same regardless. You on the other hand now have the sole responsibility of everything on your shoulders. Once things get settled down & as back to normal as you can get them, you WILL start to feel better about yourself. Rite now you feel like you’re at the bottom of the barrel. But slowly but surely you w/climb out of that barrel & you will be OK again. Let things start to settle down & get use to at least not having the abusive person in your life. Look forward each day to at least knowing it’s not going to end up in a fight at any point of your day. You can at least be thankful for that & know your day is going to be normal. Be thankful you have your children who love their mom & who bring sunshine & happiness in your daily life. No more doom & gloom. Just take things as they come the best way you can. That’s all that’s expected of you. Just doing the best you can for that one day at a time. Some days may be brighter than others, but there’s always tomorrow. No one said you have to be perfect by any means or that you have to do things perfectly. Just the best you can for that one day. Try to have an attitude of gratitude in that you at least have a chance of somewhat a normal day now. I know how much an abusive relationship can do to you, I too lived in one, both mentally & physically. I DO know the stress & what it does to one’s nerves. But w/o that abrasive person in your life, there’s no where you can go but up. All of a sudden you’ll notice you can finally relax & have no more fears. That alone w/change your life on it’s on in time. Be happy you have your kids who can bring you joy & smiles on your face. I KNOW for a fact you’re going to feel better. You’ll start to feel good about yourself as you look back & see all you’ve been able to overcome. And you will. I’ve walked in your shoes & know the road w/start to get less bumpy & you’ll finally be walking on level ground again. I did it, I KNOW you w/too. You w/find happiness again. You don’t know what’s around the corner waiting for you. I can promise you things WILL get better for you just like they did for me. Be good to yourself, you deserve it. I DO wish you all the best & happiness in your future…:)

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I’m 16 and i dated this boy for a year. And i now realize that he was verbaly abusive to me and manipulative and im still in love with him and i am afraid of him and moving on. help?

don’t try to pursue a friendship or relationship with someone that brings you down or hurts you in any way. you should cut him off and move on to someone that treats you the way you want to be treated.

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My husband recently got arrested for battery for hurting me, we have kids together and I dont know if it is worth it to try and work it out or not.

If the abuse is willing to admit to their problem of being abusive..seeking out professional intervention..anger management..and intense counseling..and treatment..in the meantime you get yourself the needed support..and seek out professional support..take care of yourself and the children..

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The relationship was over months ago, even though the breakup occurred recently. My friend just emotionally "checked out" and now is back on the market. But before she goes any further, I would like to know what steps she may need to take before she meets someone new. She’s not looking for a relationship— she easily attracts guys— but I think she needs to put some things into perspective before she goes any further. What advice might you give her?

ya

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http://BraveHeartWomen.com -The panel shares their view on staying attractive and sexy for their partners… Siedah has a definite view on this topic! How is your sexual communication?

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Everything has been good with us except for the topic of drugs. Used to be able to ignore it because it was minor, but with a new business plan that he has, it would be hard. With the business, things wouldn’t be able to be ignored.

Different morals about drugs is a very good reason to break up. Using drugs affects many areas of his life and if you are with him, your life.

1. Recreational drug use is illegal. You could be punished if you are with him when he is caught or if he has drugs in your apartment or car. Using drugs around you makes you an accomplice to illegal activity. That is pretty inconsiderate of him since you don’t even do drugs.

2. Drug usage puts him at risk for all sorts of health problems. Depending on what drugs he is doing there are many health risks. No drug use is free from health risks. If you are in a relationship with him, then your health could also be at risk. If you have a child together the child could be at risk.

3. Drug usage often leads to harder drugs. Maybe you don’t mind the drugs he is using now, but where will this road lead? Are you sure there aren’t already harder drugs involved that he hides from you?

4. Using drugs illegaly often brings you in contact with undesirable people, some can be dangerous. As his girlfriend you are a potential target as well.

5. Using drugs puts people at a higher risk for sexually transmitted diseases. As his partner you know where that leaves you.

6. If your relationship grows into a long term committment are you ready for all of these issues and the thousands I haven’t mentioned? What about healthcare bills? Mental health issues? Loss of trust?

In short: OF COURSE drug use is a good reason to break up with someone! It doesn’t mean you are judgemental or look down on them, or want to control them. It just means you are a person who can make decisions for themselves about what you want in your future. And you have every right to those decisions. Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

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My boyfriend just came home wasted. Actually the neighbour brought him home. He has puked up bile with this brown crap. He’s now on the couch, breathing fine, with a sheet over him, and the barf bowl beside him. Do I need to stay up with him, for safety reasons?

For safety reasons you should stay near but you don’t have to stay up. Even though He isn’t drinking anymore his liver still has to have time to metabolize all that he has had to drink tonight.

With you near if he does puke anymore you will be there in case he doesn’t wake up to roll on his side and spit it out..but other than that as long as he is breathing fine he should be ok…Might have a hell of a headache in a few hours though..=) Hope that helps!

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