Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

I’ve mostly been in serious longterm relationships with strong emotional connections. I’m very passionate and have a lot of love to give my gfs. I’ve mostly ended my past relationships Except my Last one which was kinda forced upon me. Sadly enough she was the one who I had the strongest attraction to, I never got tired of seeing her face and I loved her soo much. Now I feel so empty, numb, emotional, and then a lot of hurt inside, specially betrayed. Like Loving too much = Hurting so much. We broke up a while ago, but I’m still "scarred" by the situation.
I used to be optimistic about love, now i’m not. I’ve fallen in love 3-4 times, so love is fleeting. I’m so hurt by her that I find it really hard to trust women in general and feel like it’s getting in my way of dating again. Like I see the big picture and ask "what’s the point?" if I fall in love agian, only to be hurt again…So I’m just depressed and bitter, and don’t know how to alleviate this.
And No I don’t like 1 night stands or short term gf to ease my pain. I’m not motivated to date again. When I fall for someone I put all my eggs in 1 basket. But I don’t know if I can do that anymore. How can I overcome these feelings so I can move On with my life ?? It’s effecting my outlook

give it time
develop a hobby that will take your mind off it,
preverably something theraputical like writing in a journal or painting or other forms of expressing yourself. these kinds of hobbies are very, they help you maintain a healthy psychological state.
eventually you’ll meet someone and fall for them again.
whatever happens then will happen.
let life unfold itself.

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I take a while to fall for a guy, but when I do I fall hard!! When I was only like 11, I met a boy who went out of his way to get me to like him, well it worked, & I was stuck on the same kid all the way up until I was 16, went through this horrible depression, & realized I had to move on. I met a guy a little after this, who I thought was the most impressive guy ever. I was determined that I was not interested, until he nurtured my scarred from the previous, relationship insecure self into falling in love with him. I’m 19 now and he’s ended it with me after a 2 1/2 year relationship. I’m going to change my number & erase him out of my life because I can feel myself coming down with another depression. Both guys were crazy about me, but I think I made them feel small, like they felt insecure dating me. with the 1st guy I didn’t try, but with the 2nd I did fight 2prove that we could work, but he didn’t agree!!! Why do you think this happens to me? & what can I do to ease the pain? =(

As they say….Time heals all wounds

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It’s been over 2 weeks, and I’m still having a hard time getting over my ex, especially since eveytime i’m close to forgetting about him, he starts small talk on msn. (and since he found a new gf less than two weeks after we broke up) I want to move on and stop thinking about him, but it’s so hard. He was my first boyfriend, and I gave him everything. We were together for 10 months. I loved him more than i ever thought it was possible to love someone. All I want is another guy to help ease the pain of being alone, someone I can talk to and slowly build a relationship with. I miss being attached to someone. Does anyone have any advice for moving on from such a messy, hurtful break-up? My friends aren’t helping…they all promise to take me out for a good time, but then never answer my calls. I dont know what to do anymore.

well, u have to listen to boyz II men, and you should contact me =)

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i really like a guy, but he has a girlfriend. they are probably going to breakup, but until then, if it even happens, does anyone have any way to not feel like killing someone or crying every time i see them together? Please help!
Wow….i’m getting so many mixed answers! just, so you know….i’m not too imature for a relationship, i can’t control my emotions. also, i was joking when i said i wanted to kill someone. i DO NOT need professional conseling. to everyone who actually understands~ thanks!
oh, and don’t worry, i would never intentionally break them up!
Why the hell is everyone saying i need professional help? why does liking someone require professional help????!

Voodoo…

Works like a charm.

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I am going through a breakup right now with someone I love very much. We were together for four months and suddenly out of the blue she feels that she needs to be single and "find herself". We had/have a great relationship. We rarely fought and we got along great. I don’t get it.
A part of me feels like its not over but who knows?!

Anyway, I feel like I am counting the seconds just to get to the next minute. Its hard to breathe and I am simply…hurting. What are some effective things I can do to help ease the pain?

I’ve cleaned the whole house and did laundry….GAH.

Have a couple drinks out with friends…I’m not saying get drunk, just loosen up a bit.
I was with a guy for 7 years and I left him, he broke my heart and I let him go, he begged and cried to come back for a year…but he is with someone who is better for him now and I am too.Sometimes breakups lead to better things.

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I love her so much, but she doesn’t treat me right. Although she is what makes me happy, how can i get over her. (I haven’t broken up with her yet)

1. Try to correct your problems. If she’s not treating you right, sit down and discuss this. Tell her how bad you feel when she says this or that. She needs to change for the better, OR

2. Think of how bad you feel and focus on it. Realize that this is what truthfully isn’t making you happy and then feel free to let her go. Move ahead by yourself, doing whatever it takes to make you happy again (activities, friends)

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It seems the Christians I meet have met Christ when there has been hardship like recovering from alcohol, drugs divorce and I was wondering exactly why, why if you didnt need Christ than all of a sudden you clung to him, and if it helped you or made life worse was the decision to follow Jesus yours or when you were hurting was he introduced upon you by someone else as the way to ease the pain in your heart.

The opposite happened to me i lost my faith at a time of hardship. i guess life tends to throw us in certain directions. I like to think there is some sort of reasoning behind everything. but personally religion does feel like it acts as a band aid. i try to put my faith in friends and family they dont let u down.

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I’ve been dating my boyfriend for maybe a month now, and I’m starting to have feelings for someone else. Should I break up with him on MSN or should I do it to his face? And how should I say that I don’t want to be with him anymore. Its also really confusing because he really likes me and he asked me to grad, so I don’t know what to do.

Nooooo
Not over MSN!!!
He asked you out on there and you said yes and you’ve been together for a month…now you are having feelings for someone else, you at least owe him a face to face break up.

You need to go somewhere peaceful. Maybe the park? Somewhere where you can sit down together. And also, do it around dusk, when the sun is setting because its a calming moment.

Then you need to tell him about your relationship with him, start from how he made you feel for that month and your thoughts and then say that now you realise you can no longer be with him, because it wouldn’t be fair on him. And when he asks why, say because you have feeling for someone else and that you’ve TRIED to ignore them, but you cant, so you feel that its in his *your boyfriends* best interest to break up now, before he gets hurt.

You need to speak softly because no matter how you say it, finding out your girlfriend has feelings for someone else will hurt!!

But, when you’re with him, your own words will come out and you will say it your own way!!

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A really close friend(a girl) of mine was recently dumped by her heartless boyfriend of 2 years, after promising so much and even taking her virginity. She feels betrayed and everything, to finally put her trust in a boy and have that all broken. What can I do to ease her pain?
Girls: your advice would be helpful.

Just be her friend. Listen to everything she has to say and then take her out to get her mind off of him. Take her bowling or to the driving range to take out her frustrations. But don’t let her lock herself in her house and cry all the time! Remind her that she is beautiful and this isn’t her fault. Also realize that she may not want to hang out with your right now because you are a guy and she feels hurt by them!

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