Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

Guys out there. Would like to hear your opinions and experiences. Would you try to get back together with your girlfriend? A really sweet, hot, fun, funny, intelligent, kind, amazing in bed, but you broke up with her because there were some personality conflicts causing tension in the relationship. You really like her, 95% of the relationship is great, so you’re really mixed up about it. What would you do? Forget about it? Try to get back together? How?

Of course. It happens all the time. The fact that you ask this question means that you are either young or inexperienced. Have I had any major experiences with it… a couple.

I am assuming that this is a guy. What is important for me to know is who broke up with who? If the guy broke it off, then it is more possible for the guy to get back together with her.

If the girl broke it off, then it is more difficult.

It is important that if you want to get back together with her, that you ignore her.

You also have to be charming and go out and date and get other girls and become confident again.

In order to get "THE" girl, you have to be able to get all of them.

you can always resort to girl tactics… and date her acquaintances. This would have her come back to you really quick if done properly. But here you have to be tactical and suave or you end up looking really needy.

Honesty is yet another tactic. Be honest with her and think about her best interests.

No girl likes a needy guy. it is like the more you try in 90% of cases, the worse it gets.

Besides, quite often she is falling for someone else.

Women? aren’t they fine ethical upstanding people?

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JUST TO GET BACK TOGETHER AGAIN!!!!?????

I am JUST trying to understand why some couples continue to fight/argue, then they break up with someone only to go back to that SAME individual time and again!?!

Why repeat this cycle over and again with the same person? Is that healthy?

EXAMPLE: Couple started dating 7/2/07 broke up 11/17./07 got back together… 12/14/07 then broke up again 2/17/08… they got back together 3/7/08 were good for months until late Summer 08…

Broke up around 9/1/08 got back together 10/1/08… JUST BROKE UP THIS WEEKEND and already my friend is talking about getting BACK with him.

I know she can do as she pleases, I just wish I understood WHY she does what she does.

I was in one of those relationships and although i’m married to him now, i don’t reccommend it. I mean, obviously the two can’t get enough of each other. Sometimes it can just be one person who doesn’t know what he/she wants and are abusing their chances with the other. Anyway, don’t know how old this couple is but if they’re looking into marriage, it’s not a good sign.

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i dated this girl through all of high school, and i spent countless hours with her. i would be with her every day. we talked about our future together, i was there for her when ever she needed me. i gave her everything. everyone of her friends told her i was a great boyfriend and a keeper. but last night she told me she didnt love me the same way and ended things.

Move on, if you dwell in your misery it’ll take longer than you want to get over her. Not good right? Go have fun and live your life.

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How do you get over a recent break up??
I still really like him, but it’s over! Is there anything to make this process easier or how to get over him? What do you do when you go through a painful break up?
Thanks. All answers are appreciated!!!!

I’ve been crying forever!!!! Thanks again. :’(
Also we live like an hour away so I can’t do anything. And we’re not talking anymore! I’m soooooo upset it’s not even funny!

All you can do is get out and live your own life. It’s not easy, I’ve been there, so I feel your pain.

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3 year relationship. 1st relationship ive had. the reason we are breaking up is i just don’t see myself with her long term and i want to move on.

I can only speak for myself, but it took me about a year to get over my 5 year relationship. It was also my 1st relationship. We broke up on different terms though. We had trust issues. But if you don’t see yourself with that person long term, you are doing the right thing. It’s not fair to you and it’s not fair to your partner. The best advice I can say is to allow yourself to feel the hurt. It’s when you try to avoid it that it makes it worse. I remember when I was in this position and I cried a lot, but I also went out with my friends a lot too. It’s what I needed to do for me. Good Luck!

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I just can have relationships with other people even the best and the nicest people. I miss my ex everyday. I just cant give up. Is this the wrong way to be.

my aunt was divorced many years ago, never remarried, never even went out on dates. i would have to think that she wasted her life, i am sure she loved her ex too but to waste her entire life just hurt her. she lost out on finding happiness because she was stuck on just one man.

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My 4 year relationship came to a sudden end 2 months ago. I am slowly trying to get over her but as you would expect it hasn’t been easy. I am still attracted to women sexually, however I find it very difficult to consider anyone new for serious relationship material. Is this something that comes with time? I don’t feel like anyone can replace her I guess. Sounds pretty normal to me, just looking to see what others have to say.

Heavens yes, that’s normal. My last breakup was almost four years ago and I still hate men (sorry). Just give yourself time.

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I broke up with my ex 2 years ago after dating him for 3 years…it was a bad breakup because I found him cheating on me…but he was like the only man i was capable of loving and i was so heart broken that it never felt like it would be ok again…a few guys asked me to go out but I could never do that…had a brief affair with my best friend but it was more like on the rebound and he was already committed so I moved to a different town…changed my job…and thought would start again…my parents want me to get married and have been trying to have me meet a new guy every 2 months!! last week i found out that my ex got married this year…
it hurts so much to think that all this while when i was in so much pain, he was planning his life after walking out on me…i feel devastated and kept trying to hold on and he has been married and is happy…and its so painful to think that now he shares the lsame life with someone else the way he shared it with me for 3 years..

i feel stuck..don’t know what to do anymore..i’m trapped and it doesn’t look like i will ever be happy again…
Suzie: That isn’t exactly what i was looking for…but thanks..
If getting laid was a remedy, i had options..!!!

Loosing your love isn’t a new thing…but the pain and hurt that i go through every minute is killing me from inside…it feels like it will never be ok again…it feels like this is the end…

All I can tell is to love yourself until you find the right person that loves you too. Build yourself, build your life… become that person that others want to be around, and trust me, right when you are stable, happy, and focused, the guy you want will come by and change everything again. Until you feel complete on your own you can not give yourself completely to someone else.

Take a drive out of town, go to the mountains, go to the desert, build a fire, scream, shout, dance, have a beverage or two, liberate yourself from the memories that you are clinging too… let them go, release the pain and the responsibility of housing them… leave the baggage their in the ashes… and come back to town ready to be you again.

Good Luck and God Bless.

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A yr ago, my ex was about to move from NYC to Cali 2 be w/ me but I lost my job & decided to move again. As I wanted to be free to concentrate on my next move I broke up w/ him, though deeply in love. The outfall was brutal; he was defensive & hurt & rebounding like crazy; I didn’t really know how to read him over the phone. Later, he tried to reach out but wasn’t making that clear. I just went back and visited him & realized I still loved him & how he worked. We saw we had been deeply in love & seperated by misunderstanding but he said the last year had crushed his feelings. When I showed him how his way of handling things had created my reaction, he said he wished the last year hadn’t happened & wanted to try. I proposed we keep in touch and give things a fresh start as I left; he looked radiant as I kissed his cheeks. My gut feeling is to give things some time and then contact him, as I tended to be more of the initiator, but I don’t want to let things go too long. Any advice?

Cold for one. The whole breaking it off for you to concentrate on your next move. Shows that your still pretty lost on your purpose in life and two that your a tad selfish about it. You could of handled that much better and maybe it wouldn’t of hurt him so much. But I don’t know what led up to that descion I thinking chances are it might of been him pushing on you to hard. Because any other reason would of been extremely selfish. But still selfish in its own right but his reaction to it was overboard thou. The other thing is how out of touch with your own feelings you are. Not good, shouldn’t take seeing this guy in person to prove to yourself you still love him. Shows that you don’t honor to well the presences in your life, that out of sight, out of mind. Which also shows me that your overly independent of people in your life, which makes for a very lonely life. I’d be carful thou, because he did show an inability to be independent of individuals himself, almost like you guys are yin-yang with how you guys handle your insecurities in your interpersonal relationships. Also its good in words, but the heart never forgets, you guys can’t act like the past year didn’t happened are else your just trying to forget the lessons learn, plus history is big pillar in a relationship. You guys should talk it into the ground, not ignore it. If anyone your going to confront your shame with, it should be your lover. And he and you should realize that. Also this guys got a problem, he should of let you go after that long. No offense, but the whole true love, romantic love, soul-mate thing just neglects the fact that we can love many, many things. Its the situation around that loving relationship that determines how true, good, pure, right that relationship is for you. Looking at this… doesn’t look good….. and him unable to find someone else shows he can’t see himself as being an equal to you, he still worship you in other words, not good and not healthy for him. Besides also realize that at the core of every deep and meaningful relationship is a friendship. Take a step back and see if you can see how you’ve actual been a friend to this guy… without that all you are is two strangers that agree just to love each other…. love is so much more complex soup of feelings and it needs more then just raw sexual attraction to work right…. your guys are finding the right path, just keep in mind what you guys need to do is work on the friendship (which is to say a relationship in which you guys trust and relate all your feelings, ALL of your feelings, espacially your insecurites, nightmares, horriable feelings of impending doom, and fantasies, desires, shoot the only thing that divides lovers form friends is the level of physical intimacy and the togetherness of the future) and this could turn into a wonderful relationship. The problem with these answering personal questions like this is I don’t have your intiution, your gut feelings, without that these tend to just be general advice… listen to yourself and make sure it listens with you….and hopfully he’ll do the same for you, good luck

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I’m 25 and it’s been almost 6 years since my last major breakup/heartbreak. So now I’m going through one again and I don’t have a clue how to handle it. Especially at this stage in my life. These feelings are all so foreign. I can handle the relationship being over but my ex still contacts me. I don’t know how to play the games to get him back, and I also don’t know how to tell him to leave me alone. I don’t want him knowing that I still care about him and don’t want it to be over. He can’t have that satisfaction. It’s been 6 years since I’ve allowed myself to care for someone for this very reason. He thinks we can be friends, and it’s not possible to be more anymore because of long distance issues. I think he that he really just doesn’t want to put the effort into it because he wan’t the girl to do all the work.

How do I handle him when he calls me? Do I act aloofe and carefree, or tell him what I really think as to why things are over, his lazyness, and ensure he leaves me alone?

Move on. Tell him the truth, that you don’t want him calling you anymore because you’re not a hundred percent over him and you don’t want to play games or go through any unneccessary emtional post-breakup rollercoaster b.s. that we all do. Then don’t talk to him, ignore him if he keeps trying to contact you. Then a year from now after you’ve put some time past your break-up you’ll be able to see things with clarity then if you choose you can drop him a line and you’ll be able to be friends without any silly baggage.

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