Stop the Pain of Break Up NOW Before It's Too Late!

Me and My husband Have been falling apart for about 6 mounths now, He dosent want to hug,me , kiss me, make love he also wont let me hold him at night anymore. He say he just wants to be left alone but it is breaking my heart. I feel lost someone give me some advise to help save our marriage, I love him so much and would do anything to save this marriage.

I am sorry to hear you are in this situation.

Some people do like to have alone time, whereas some people like to be with their partners 24/7. Obviously this causes difficulties in a marriage, but with good communication, these things can be worked out.

In the meantime, you should leave your partner alone, just as he wishes. Now is the time to give time to yourself. You need to work on yourself and boost your self-esteem. This will have two fold results.

Firstly, you will feel better about yourself. This will give you confidence to maybe do things you have not done before.

Secondly, your husband will see you as more self-sufficient, capable, and less needy of him. This will make you more attractive to him as a person.

If you have any good girl friends, perhaps mates you have had from school or work, now is a good time to start going out with them. Not to get drunk and look at other men, but just to socialize and develop a ring of support around you. Sometimes when you talk about your problems with sympathetic listeners, then your problems seem less overwhelming.

For help with boosting your self-esteem you can visit www.savemarriagesecrets.org where you can get a free ebook called Personal Development Advice which you may find useful.

Best wishes,

Red Stripe

How do you know when i relationship is worth saving and when it’s time to just call it quits and go your separate ways?? 4 years, being engaged, and loving him so much make it seem worth it.. But when we fight… it gets down right dirty

it’s okay to fight, it’s normal and natural.
most people when they fight, they solve nothing, it’s just a vent. they lashout with anger when really they are just frustrated and don’t know how to express WHAT is frustrating them
if you think even for a moment that your relationship is worth holding onto, then it is
make a commitment to solving the ACTUAL problem thats causing the fights.
Why not sort out the fight while building your relationship. challenge each other with a little test. who knows you may end up having fun.
both of you go to separate rooms and write two lists, the first is a list of what you feel are the problems and why your upset. the second is a list of what you think will be on your partners list.
the person who gets the most things right wins and gets to choose the movie s or dinner.
This way you both spend time thinking about the other person and how they feel. you both get to read the lists without yelling, and maybe just maybe you can end a fight with a romantic night out.

Well its been 2 months since we’ve met and we are offical and even very serious about eachother. However I know at some point the relationship sparks will die down and I want to keep it from dying. How do I ignite more sparks and keep the romance alive. We are 24- 25 and care deeply for eachother. Any advice

I recently wrote about how to enhance a relationship. You might want to take a look

I really like this woman at a local store. She seems to feel the same way, only we cannot date due to cultural differences on her side ( She accepted a date recently, but her father shot it down….I won’t let that stop me). We see each other just about every day, but only for a few minutes at a time. She is a quiet girl, so I don’t know a ton about her, but I want to. How do I keep it interesting? How do I keep this alive if we can’t date just yet?

keep talking to her and ask questions about her. it’s good that u won’t back out. just talk to her and let her no how u feel.

im a cancer and my boyfriend is a gemini we have been on and of for three years we have recently had a perfect little baby girl.. but its so hard i love hims so much but everything seems to be falling apart he wants to be out all the time doing the things his mates are doing even if its meeting other girls and that hurts me as i class that as unfaithful.. can i fix this??

You can try. Try to put some romance back into your relationship. Ask him if he go to a club with you or, an evening at home with a candlelight dinner , put on something sexy. try and remember what you two did when you first got together. If all else fails remember you can’t change a person, they are what they are, but i would give it a shot!! If it dosen’t work out try and remain friends for your daughter.

It’s been a little over two weeks, how do I start feeling better? I suffer from severe depression and I don’t really think that this break up is helping my problem.
Any advice from other depression sufferers out there. Please, I just need a peace of mind. If you have nothing good to say, don’t waste your time answering.

Do something you love to keep your mind of things, that really helps. Maybe volunteer places on the weekend, keep busy that way you have less time to think about the situation + everything happens for a reason, there is someone out there for you, patience is a virtue. Hope you feel better!

Complicated situation with the military. I love the mother of my daughter who is also in a complicated situation with work and such. How can I deal with her. I love her but she does not love me or at least is under too much stress to provide me with the nessary love and emotional; relationship I want. Please help.

you should move on.. you should find someone else.. you should find someone that wants to be with you… you should be with someone that will love you and cherish you .. simply stop being the doormat and stand tall in the KING’s spot

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A friend is carrying on a sexual relationship with a married man while they are both are deployed. I suspect he thinks the fling is just that, a fling, and will discontinue contact with her upon his return to his duty station. She is hoping they will continue to communicate and she will see him from time to time when she returns to her duty station.

Also, she tells he me keeps his wedding ring on during the act which I find a little odd. He doesn’t talk about his wife much but he frequently talks about his kid. I think he likes her but it’s just sexual for him.

He’s very attracted to her and they get together as much as possible. I think she is beginning to have feelings for him. I try to tell her it’s just a deployment affair and to just enjoy the sex. She confided in me that she hopes to continue the affair when the leave.

What do you think?

People under stress will do and say things that under ordinary circumstances would never consider. I think you have hit the nail in the head as far as you grasp of how things are with them , so may be you can only sit back and wait for the smash up and help pick up the pieces

Alright, there’s this guy that I went out with at the end of December, and now I like him again…or I could just like what we were.

Kay, here’s the full story:

I was laying in bed, texting my friends and I got a text message from the guy. I asked him if he knew who he was talking to and he said ‘yah, i know who it is’ and i was like ‘okay.’ and so I asked him where he got my phone number and he said he got it from my best friend. I texted my best friend and asked her why she gave him the number and she simply replied ‘you’ll thank me’. And that’s when I realized he was going to ask me out…and I was right. A moment after I sent the text message, I got a text from the guy saying ‘will you go out with me?’ I said told him I’d thnk about it because I had feelings for someone else and he said ‘okay’ and he said he was going to be and he couldn’t text anymore. So I said okay, bye, and I texted my best friend and told her was what was going on.

The next day (well, same day, just actual day time), I went to my other best friend’s house and had a sleep over with her. While we were there, I got a text message from the guy. We continued to text all night until around eight and he asked me again if I wanted to go out with him. I told him I think we should get to know each other by playing a game of ‘getting to know you’. I would ask him a question and he would ask me a question and we’d answer it and compare answers. We actually had a lot in common together.

So, again, at ten at night he asked me if I wanted to again. I asked him why he wanted to go out with me and he replied ‘because ur pretty, smart, funny and nice’. My heart swelled then by that with happiness and I said ‘I liked that answer.’ and we started going out.

So after about two hours, he texted me and said he loved me, but he wanted to get to know me better until we could actually BE together again. I was sort of heartbroken.

So we broke up.

The next time we went to school, I stared at him. And stared at him. I stare at him everyday in the class I have with him, and today, I was finally caught by him. I was staring at him while he was talking to someone, and he caught my eyes and I didn’t look away. He asked one of my friends if they could ask me for him if I liked him. When they did, I looked at them with a weird expression and said ‘no, why?" Then they walked away without say anything. So I ran after then and asked why and she said ‘because he says you stare at him everday and that he thinks you like him."

So, when I walked past him, I said "in your dreams!" all teasingly, and i didn’t really hear what he said.

Does he like me? Does he want to go back out with me?

Please help.

I think the only reason why he knows I stare at him is because he’s staring back.

PLEASE HELP!

I think he likes you!

Almost 3 months ago, I broke up with a girl that I had been dating for a little over 2 years. During the week, I don’t think of her because I am busy with work and studies. On the weekend or in the nights when I am not with friends, I Really miss her. I try not to call her because I don’t want to lead her on, but God do I miss her. Is there a good guideline on how long I should wait before proposing that we get back together? Perhaps (how long you should wait) = (how long you’ve been dating) divided by 4? Can you tell what I study? lol.

One of my friends says that I should wait 6 months. One of my friends says I didn’t break up for a real reason and that I should get back together with her asap. What do you think?

I broke up with her because she doesn’t cook or clean as well as I do (though she has tried to make improvements), her family is kind of crazy, and she has $80,000+ of student loan debt. She will have a degree in art, and although she’s talented and a good salesman, I think the odds are against her to recover her debt.

Don’t bother. You’re not really into her, you just miss the weekend company. Let the poor girl move on.